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The relationship defined.

Middle of Nowhere


If you’ve been reading my blog you’ll know I’m blogging through Kyle Idleman’s book “Not a Fan.”  (You can catch up here.) Today I’m discussing the fifth question in diagnosing fandom: are you a self-empowered fan or a spirit-filled follower?

Kyle began his book with a question, “Are you a follower of Jesus?” As we’ve walked through the first chapters we’ve seen some of the examples that separate a follower from a fan.

But now it’s time to ask the hard questions. It’s time to take those examples and test them against our own lives.

This past weekend as I was carpooling with a couple of my good friends to a meeting in a different town our driver several times asked me to check the GPS on her phone to make sure we were going in the right direction.

You see, she and her husband had taken a trip to South Carolina and were going to see some friends while they were up there. They plugged in the address of the hotel where they were all going to meet and set off. The GPS was clearly giving directions and they followed them without even questioning. You can imagine their surprise when they were on a dirt road surrounded by trees and the GPS said they had arrived at their destination.

When they entered the address it didn’t take…only the state. And the GPS did what is does best and took them to the state…smack dab in the middle of the state that is. And the middle of South Carolina looked like the middle of nowhere.

Thankfully their end destination was only about 15 minutes away, but what would if it had been hours away?

What would happen if all this time you thought you were following Jesus and in the end found out you were only a fan?

As Kyle so eloquently puts it:

“Though I believe in the assurance of our salvation, I also believe that we are to work out our salvation with fear and trembling (Phil. 2:12). When it comes to where we will spend eternity we can’t be afraid to ask the hard questions and take an honest look at the answers that our lives offer. Is it possible that when asked, “Are you a follower of Jesus?” you quickly responded, “Yes,” but one day you will be exposed as nothing more than a fan?”

In Matthew 7 Jesus discusses the roads we can take and where they lead:

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” Matthew 7:13-14

I want to find the narrow gate!!!

And I want you to find it with me!

I think this is a great place and time to check our GPS with the questions Kyle has posed:

  • Does your life reflect what you say you believe? With belief in Jesus we are saved but we need to do more than just confess it with our mouths. We need to confess it with our lives as well.
  • Do you think you’re on the right road because of what you’ve done? Actions alone are just as dangerous as words alone. These two questions matter but only as they lead to the answer for the third question.
  • Do I know Jesus and does He know me? We want to make our Christian walk about the things we say and do. They are tangible and can be measured. They are what should follow naturally if we have an intimate relationship with Jesus.

Yes He knows us…He knows all of us. And yes, nothing can separate us from His love (Rom. 8:38-39). We are saved by the grace of God through faith in Jesus (Eph. 2:8).

But He wants an intimate relationship with us. He doesn’t want us to be the lukewarm fans described in Revelation 3. He wants our “all”. He wants us to get carried away and He wants us completely committed.

Where and when have you missed the narrow gate? Have you found yourself in the middle of nowhere? Is there anything else on your heart today? Join the conversation below so we can all share in the blessings! 





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5 Responses to The relationship defined.

  1. Todd Bowman says:

    There have been several (OK, a lot of) times in my life when I’ve missed the narrow gate and my relationship with Christ was not hitting the mark. Thank Him that His relationship to us is constant and never changing. Our pursuit of Him may falter, but His pursuit of us never does! He is so good at picking us up, dusting us off, and getting us back on the right path. It may hurt a little (or a lot), but its worth it in the end to be on the road of following Him!


  2. Diana Denis says:

    I have to confess, I read this yesterday and it wrecked me. This is such an important question to ask. I had seen a lot posted about the book but clearly I didn’t pay enough attention. You’ve got me doing some reflecting. Thank you. I almost called you today to tell you I’m following along but decided to just sit quietly with my thoughts. Thank you for this Mindy. ❤

    • Diana I have to say that reading the whole book kinda wrecked me, too! There were plenty of times I had to sit quietly with my thoughts, but now is my time to shout them out so that others can learn what I learned. Of course I am skipping over a lot in the book so reading it will give you a much fuller experience than my measly blog posts but you at least get the gist of it.

      I would have loved to talk to you but I’m so thankful that you let me know that I was not the only one affected by the questions that came up with this book. Love you! 🙂

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